I think we all have an eventual goal of a two post lift. Most of us just don't have the space. The rest of us don't have the money.
I've always thought that jack stands were the safest way to keep a car up, although I think a solid set of ramps is equally safe, but can make it difficult to get to parts of the engine. Or useless if you're removing wheels.
I am a little curious about those close calls, was it user error or did a stand fail? I have two sets, one I inherited that are likely older than I am, and the other are still probably 30+ years old. I suspect that anything available these days is sourced from China, and I generally don't trust them.
My conventional Harbor Freight floor jack has no problem getting under the lift points in the BW, but it (the jack) is a piece of crap and I wouldn't trust it to hold up my lunch for more than a few minutes.
OP, if all you are doing is installing lights, why do you need all four wheels off the ground? Can't you just do one side at a time? Easier and certainly safer.